Exposing at EA

[Still Waters]

OK Puppy, I need your advice or anyone else who has experience dealing with affairs.

I did tell my W that I need to hold off on us talking, but I have a suspicion that she's going to confess her affair. She's saying things like "I really need to get something off my chest" and "I'm really stressed out and have something important I need to tell you in person."

This all comes after this weekend when I helped her move. Two of her girlfriends were there and I was absolutely golden the entire time. I looked good, I cracked jokes with all of them, and I left the second the last box was moved in. I think that maybe the guilt is starting to kill her because I've been so strong and supportive during this whole thing.

So my question is, what's the best way to respond if she does confess? I'm thinking I'll tell her that as long as she has any contact with this guy that she and I have nothing to talk about. I want to tell her that I'm not perfect either, that people make mistakes, and that I can and will forgive her. But only if she cuts off all contact and ends the affair.

Of course I have no idea if she is going to confess, and even if she does I don't know if she'll do so to ask for a second chance or just to tell me that she's in love with the OM (seems more likely). But I want to be prepared for anything since that's how I've been operating lately and it's always the best way to go. The Boy Scouts motto rings true in the world of DB: "Always be prepared."