DA Club II

[JDOllie]

Well, day two wrapped up for me.

Even saw W at b-ball practice, completely ignored her. She doesn't exist anymore to me!

[silvagod]

Well if you think about it JD, the woman you knew really DOESN'T exist.

Good on you mate.

I am on day 12 now

[JDOllie]

I was wrong - yesterday was day THREE. Man, this is already day 4 of going dark, and I barely noticed it going by!

Nice job Silva! 3 down for me, and 25 to go (Feb 28 being my goal date - and my birthday too!)

[silvagod]

Excellent JD, it's gets harder to remember when you started if you are doing it right!

[kassie]

Haven't heard a word, message, phone call in days. Could he be respecting my space? Giving me time and acknowledging what I have been saying all along? Sad, but ok.

You know I like thinking that the person we have been M to doesn't really exist anymore - at least not the way we were ( I think there was a movie by that name?) so who's vision changed???? Are the goals working yet?

[pearlharbr]

Well, I had five days of NC but it was easy because xBF was out of town. Today he texted that he wanted to come over tonight to visit with me and the cats. Honestly, I was a little surprised to hear from him but knew to expect something from reading others' threads.

I think I have detached almost completely because I have absolutely no desire to see him. I waited a few hours to respond, then said I already had plans (tonight was dance classes!). Less than five minutes later he texted back to ask about some time this weekend. Whatever. Didn't respond, may send him an email tomorrow because there are financial matters that need to be discussed soon.

I know most people here are detaching through NC, but I think I'm doing pretty well with minimal contact. I suspect I am truly over it because I'm just ready to move on.

[silvagod]

the way we were ( I think there was a movie by that name?)

Yep, Kris Kristofferson and Barbra Streisand I think.

so who's vision changed???? Are the goals working yet?

Mine has. I had nothing but visions of reconciliation and a happy ever after life with my W for a long time. Now, as I have said, I want both of us to be happy but not necessarily together. So far, for my part, it's working. Not so sure about W, we don't talk much so I am not sure if she is happy or not. (I do hope she is though)

[kassie]

Another day of NC, another day of freedom? I have to admit I am feeling scared about my H being so quiet. Probably have to face him at work tommorrow - he can't stay out forever. Haven't seem him since his accident. Feel kind of bad about that but no one forced him to drink, or do the things he did that let up to our separation. I will keep reminding myself that this didn't happen without reason. It was not my fault - I am not unreasonable and uncaring - I am trying to create a R based on respect.

[cz946]

I am feeling lonely today. Thinking about sending a txt, but probably shouldn't. Somedays I do great, and I think I am moving forward, then all of a sudden the next day I can't get XW out of my head. I hate these feelings!!!!!

[pearlharbr]

Stay strong CZ!

If you feel the need, write the text here so you're still sending it out in the universe. I understand the roller coaster of emotion. If you can't step off the ride, just hang on tighter and know that it will pass.