Welcome and I'm sorry your here. i want to say that niether drinking or a "fling" would be the answer you are looking for unless you don't care about her, your family and your marriage. I suggest you read other ppls threads and see what OP have been through. Where they started and where they are now.
The bottom line is if you do a few things different, whether it is how you talk to her or do things with just the kids she will notice a change and wonder why. No one is saying that you have the "problem" BUT you are the only one willing at the moment to look into doing something to change the pattern. You have gotten wonderful advise at things you can do to get your W to notice you in a different way.
Here are 2 other possiable things to think about.
1. Your W may be suffering from PPD. Even though it has been 3 yrs since your childs birth it makes sense with the mood changes and frustration the your W has.
2. Go to IC to help with communication. By going, no one is saying it is your fault. Look at it this way. What you have been doing isn't working so change it!
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
