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Are you down because he is down or because he is "bringing you down" with his downness? Differentiation=You might recognize why he is down and provide support to him, but you don't allow his mood to make you feel the same way. Are you holding onto yourself???

Damn-I'm all over you today. I'm afraid that you'll hate that.

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Are you down because he is down or because he is "bringing you down" with his downness? Differentiation=You might recognize why he is down and provide support to him, but you don't allow his mood to make you feel the same way. Are you holding onto yourself???

Damn-I'm all over you today. I'm afraid that you'll hate that.

Lucky


Yep holding on real good.
He does bring me down a bit but then I am over it just as fast as I felt it.
Be all over me.
Nope I am a great sport.
I love it.

I am listening to music right now and smiling.
PROMISE!~!~
Especially cause God has blessed me w/ someone as sweet as you>!~!~
xoxo,
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Juanes ~ Gotas de agua dulce

I love this guy...
This is what I am listening to.

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Bachata Dance~

And this.
I learned how to do this.
I am going to torture him w/it soon.
I have a figure like this too. \:D
Just a bit more curves~
and I gave birth to 5 kids.
Not bad~
;\)


I dance like this now instead of eating or feeling sad!!~!~
I am good.

Love ya sweetie,
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Bachata... OMG. If you look like that and can dance like that, I don't understand how you ever have trouble searching for your inner diva. To dance that way takes a whole lot of inner diva!!!

I should've taken Latin dance rather than prissy ballet when I was growing up. It would do me well now!

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I don't understand how you ever have trouble searching for your inner diva.



I KNOW~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~

This is why my H thinks I am loca ( crazy ) too.

God blessed me and I am stubborn....


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I should've taken Latin dance rather than prissy ballet when I was growing up. It would do me well now!


You can still learn!!!!!!

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Well we are still having our talks about our SL.
they go well and then we stop and start again if they start to head south.

The best part for me is he is trying and I am being strong.

He is really wanting for me to be the dominant one... and I am still struggling with that.
????
In my perfect world I would like to be submissive too.
But I suppose in his mind I have done it for too long?

I do think though it is just his preference that I be Domimant.

He said it is more that he wants me to enjoy myself and be confident.
But when I give a fantasy scenario where we would trade dominance he puts his nose up....

His favotite on was where he was mostly submissive.

I was very , very dominant when we met.
I would take him 3-4 x a day.
He isnt asking for that and yet I feel like I am struggling?


I even looked for testosterone cream?
online?
But it has side effects no?
And my DR is too holistic like me anyway.

Does anyone know of any herbal remedies similair to Testosterone.
I tried Damiana a while back it helped some.

I am a sexual being but I know there were just far more natural chemicals in my body back then.

???


I would love any thoughts..


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Oh NO, don't take testosterone. You'll grow a beard! Is it really that you don't feel horny? Or, are you hoping that if you get very horny, you'll be able to attack him and fulfill his wish?

Regarding his wish for you to be dominant... Do you want that? Can you picture yourself playing that role all the time? Is it that you don't have ideas on how to do it?

I guess I would feel just like you if I were in your position. I may be HD, but I've never had practice being the dominant one.

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Oh NO, don't take testosterone. You'll grow a beard! Is it really that you don't feel horny? Or, are you hoping that if you get very horny, you'll be able to attack him and fulfill his wish?

Regarding his wish for you to be dominant... Do you want that? Can you picture yourself playing that role all the time? Is it that you don't have ideas on how to do it?

I guess I would feel just like you if I were in your position. I may be HD, but I've never had practice being the dominant one.

Lucky



I dunno~

That is the problem.
I do get 'HORNY'.
I DO HAVE DESIRE.
I just read on marriage builders.com that Men have testosterone and so for them it is super easy to always be 'horny'.
And tht if mine is real low I can get put on it?

At any rate...
I am not depsperate.
I think my drive is ok.
I also know that for now I will be ok with my Fantasy Scenarios and with me.
I just 'feel' like I need extra oomph?
He didnt really say his wish was dominant.
I used that word.
He just wants me to be confident.
And that for me?
Is /has been hard.
I am shooting myself in the foot before I see him cause I am overthinking????

*sigh*


Thanks Lucky for the input.
I know if I have one drinky poo I am all over him... so it is all the problem with what is in between my ears.
"my brain"
*super sigh*

Back to the drawing board...
{{ reading and working on me .... }}}}

Love,
Ali

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