I know how cold and heartless I sound at times. Here I am. It's armor of sorts. Recalling this stuff used to affect me where I'd go home and be angry at my wife for all this crap in the past.
I am certainly not this way in my day to day life with my wife. At my worst, I was really doing the LRT. and it wasn't a trick. I was ready for her to be gone.
If a person cannot handle me being blunt then really you can't do this, nothing I say is even going to be close to the pain a love one can inflict. Tons of others here can be all warm fuzzy and make you feel perfect, you aren't.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
