Too many voices Frank and you can't please them all...so screw all of us and tell us who you want giving you advice, but only if you follow it.
I am grateful for the variety of opinions. I think I have finally gotten to the place where I can sort out the anger vs the constructive ones. Everyone has their good and bad days, and their opinions about them.
I agree with about half the opinions I get from each person. So that makes each one valuable.
Jack, she has paid some consequences for her actions. I could see the hurt in her when she had to admit that what she did was a 'mistake' because I think she has to deal with the fact she also hurt someone else, even though they deserved it. That she did nothing to help I think she has to sort it all out, especially the damage to the girls.
But she's trying. She's a very emotionally damaged person and I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for now.
