That memory makes me tear up a little too- it's just so hard. I know you feel awful, we all have at some point in this. Try to realize it's early-- he doesn't know what he wants. Detach and focus on yourself. Unfortunatley, you can't make a decision for him. You can make yourself better for YOU and your kiddos. Remember, you are not alone, there are thousands of marriages that have gone through these times and tons of people here on this board to talk to. I'll keep you in my prayers.