Then she said that she was so glad to be here because she really missed being with the girls, and that she feel like they really need her in their day to day life. I told her that I appreciate that she's here and all the things she is doing.
I had to think about this statement. When she told me this I cringed inside because I was thinking that I wasn't 'good enough' to take care of the girls. I failed and now she is bringing all the 'good parenting' into the house.
My first inclination in the past would be to say "Yeah I guess I sucked at taking care of them". But I didn't. I thought it but didn't say it.
I know I didn't do the greatest job but I was here, I worked to keep us here, and I love them. I did the best I could at the time.
I need to remember that and give myself Kudos for at least doing that much.
Frank, Frank, Frank...
Why must everything go back to "Frank is no good"?
When I read this, I thought that all she was saying was that the girls needed their mom. No matter how great of a dad you are, a girl still needs mom!!! It isn't about you not being good enough. It is not about you at all.
Quit overthinking!!!
Hugs! Pam
P.S. And while you're at it, let go of the "if you really thought the girls needed you you wouldn't have left them" thought that has probably crossed your mind. This is a new day. She is there. She wants to be a mom. Be thankful, if only for the sake of your girls.
