True Love or True Fog? Part II - The Fertile Void

[Silver Fox]

I locked my first thread but I still feel like a Newcomer so I guess I'll stay here. Now I need to learn how to link my thread. Can someone teach me how? Talk to me like I'm 4!

When I have more time I'll recap my nearly 2 year sitch. Until then, the latest news is ..........nothing. Exactly 3 weeks after my H's angry email saying he would "check with his L first thing Monday" (January 12) about my Counterclaim that he says he didn't know anything about, he has not contacted me. I guess he's not in such a rush afterall?! And believe it or not, I have not initiated contact since SEPTEMBER 16. We have not even SEEN each other since AUGUST 27. I think this is called going dark to the extreme.

So Part II - The Fertile Void, a Gestalt therapist term used in the book How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together by Susan Page:

"Now you have done all you can, and you need to let nature take its course. While you are waiting, you have to be willing to live temporarily in the realm of uncertainty. Your confusion and lack of resolution may be disturbing and difficult, but you have to be willing to live with this uneasy feeling for a while. Learning to tolerate the discomfort of the unresolved is the only way to move to new levels of knowledge and awareness. Don't push the universe for an answer to your polarized problem, your power struggle. Relax, and let the answer come to you in its own time. Even if you are in a hurry for an answer, assume this attitude. Don't worry, the answer will arrive by the time you need it."

I'm trying!