I read through your sitch Craig and I just want to say that I am sorry to hear about the D papers. I was slapped in the face with papers last week too, after I thought things with my H had gotten better. You really don't know how to explain the feeling. I don't think I could breathe for about 15 minutes after I realized what just happened. I, like you, got really angry after it sank in and I wanted to tear him a new one more then ever....
It sounds like its been a long road for you and it sounds like you have done everything right. Ill be praying for you as well