Yes 25 years, I have been stuck and obsessing. The past week I've been adjusting to the new living situation again. I've been friendly with STBX and we've only had 1 altercation - when I thought she was hiding things from me.
It's been resolved and I feel good about the situation because I can accept it the way it is. There's no need for me to bring up any other issues from the past / present any longer.
I don't obsess over this situation. It's just what it is. I think I'm becoming 'unstuck' now as I have no more expectations. I'm more productive in my work now and I feel less stressful.
It's slow, but my goal is to get unstuck and keep moving forward.
I'm not angry any more, except at myself for allowing my life to go down this path, and that's a motivator.
I have accepted that we need to be friends as best we can, for the girls sake. I'm being as friendly as I can and I do my best to forgive the past.
