Sorry for the hijack, but Jack did your wife ever file for divorce, and as Bill wrote what were things like before your wife said she might be interested in working on the relationship. Just curious.
Did my wife ever file? No, I don't think so. I never got paperwork, but let me be clear here, at the time that I would have gotten paperwork, I would have signed off on it poured a beer and made a phone call.
She kept attempting to talk to me or send me forwarded emails, about nothing.
Here is what happened, she called one day and in the tiniest voice I have ever heard, she asked me not to hang up on her. Now up until this time she had been full of lies about giving up the OM and working on us, and I ALWAYS fell for it.
Now however, I was looking forward to life without her. She hadn't been a part of my life for almost 3 months now, and really I was glad for it.
She begged for one chance, and I gave her several ultimatiums. Concerning that chance. A chance by the way I wanted her to fail at. I said if you are on my porch Friday night when I get home, I'll know your serious, otherwise bye. But if you f me over again, the way I have been treating you will be like a warm summer day compared to how I will treat you in the future.
We started piecing that Friday. And Piecing is harder than waiting. We are both better for it, our marriage is stronger and we don't take each other for granted.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
