Exposing at EA

[Still Waters]

No matter what I find on the phone bills (which I just learned include details of not only every call but every text she sent), I will make it clear to my W that I'm willing to forgive her and fully commit to working on our M. But only if she cuts it off completely with the OM. Until she does that, then she and I have nothing to talk about.

I know that I am far from perfect, and that her affair is a symptom of a marriage that she and I both created. That's why I'm willing to forgive her. But not if the lying and deceit goes on and on and on. I have patience, and I can forgive, but both of those things have their limits.

And while I'm not a deeply religious man, I do believe that when you stand up in front of your family and vow to love, support, and honor someone as long as they live, then that's a vow you keep. At the very least you give it every ounce of strength you have before giving up on a promise like that.