First, the 'contest' of who was the worse was in my head. I didn't accuse her of being the worst. She just dumped some blame on me with her 'you had an affair with the bottle' and I RESPONDED with the comment about her 'real' affair.
I didn't bring it up first.
And I was setting a BOUNDARY regarding her communicating with Douchebag. It had to be discussed because she is still calling him because they are 'friends'. She said that won't change right now and that it was a bad idea to get involved physically when she hadn't gotten rid of her current relationship.
Seriously, I'm not letting it get me down and the conversation wasn't that bad. About an hour later she went to go do some massages and came into my office to tell me her schedule. We were both pleasant and life goes on.
BND says we need to learn to be friends. Ok, I'll do that. I don't know STBX told me she wanted me to learn to 'trust her' again but I'll give her the benefit of the doubt until she proves me wrong.
if you go back and look at this post from earlier this morning you can see that STBX opened up to me about her work issues and some other things. I listened and validated like a friend would.
