great point about the kid's ability to guide you as to who the right one is. The 75% number I got from the c, as I said. I think he meant that we should be far enough on the path to love that we don't "over introduce", yet not so close that by the time the kids meet the new person, it's a done deal. Make sense? I have met people who wait until it's a fait accompli to introduce and it makes me wonder why. If I were the new "step mom to be" I would want to meet the kids ahead of time anyhow, for ME as well as for them.
Anyhow, when I see my s22 dating, I carefully watch the way the young woman looks at him. And he, at her. If a gf of his, looks at him the way I'd want a woman to look at my son, when she really really gets him and really really loves him, then she gets my thumbs up. FWIW (and that ain' t always much, fyi!!).
You know what I mean. The kids will see something we might miss. Hm, Yeah, I say they get full voting rights.
((( j )))
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