I have found that truth comes in layers, if it comes at all. I continue to discover new and even more horrifying things. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I'm a Christian, and what I am really beginning to struggle with is the judgement I am passing on my W for all of this. I don't want to just sit back and judge her because we are all sinners and all make mistakes, so it's hard to step back and not do that, but at the same time she just continues in this horrible cycle and won't/can't stop. Anyhow, I guess my point is to try to extend grace to your W and recognize that while she is hurting you and lying to you, you too are an imperfect person capable of the same kinds of sins. While I'm not advocating that you become a doormat, I am saying you should remember your love for your W through this and just be careful not to let hate mix in with that. I don't know if that makes sense, but it is a lesson I learned and am learning.
