I didn't mean to take all of the pressure off. I just wanted to restate my thoughts. I still think he needs to be pressed a bit. Are you really afraid he will leave if you ask him to work?
You have been on this board for years and are still suffering and working and working and working in your corner. You have seen some change, but you seem to still have some agony.
Is there anything you can try to do differently? Approach? Mindset?
Hmmm. Mindset. I'm going to be honest, and I hope I'm not stepping out of bounds. When I read you posts, I wish I saw more courage. When you say you love yourself and you're free, it almost sounds like you're trying to convince yourself more than us. Maybe it's a mantra that helps you find strength to believe it. But, if you really believed it, why do you have to repeat it?
It just seems like you're living in fear of losing him. Is he really going to walk away, or is he just trying to control you and keep you at his side WITHOUT HAVING TO WORK AT KEEPING YOU. You are a gift to him, too.
I hope I'm wrong, but these are just gut instincts I get when I read your thoughts. Slap me silly if I should shut up and keep my nose out of it. I do recognize that I'm a novice at thinking about all of this.
XO, Lucky
No worries. Like I said . I wish I would have posted my recent transformation. When I post here it is a lot of thinking out loud. I post on another forum.
Funny you should mention the word courage?
I will post one /few of of my posts in a bit.
and the word fear. I used to be afraid ... I am no longer. I say I will lose him b/c he too is tired of working and working and working.
Yes I used to threaten all the time I loved myself.
I say it a lot b/c that is the only way to freedom. I have to put myself first.
I am not afraid he will leave but I can not force him to do anything.
