as a LBS who feels "flawed" because my H can't commit to me, it does make me look at my WAH and think that perhaps HE really is the one with the character deficit.
YES! It is not easy at all to process the feelings of rejection and blaming comments etc. I have been there a lot, my stbx dished out a lot of insults and blaming toward me- literally telling me I was not good enough, as well as pulling away/'not committing'. And sometimes when I think of it the whole *feeling bad about myself* comes over me again- but this is not true and the statement above is absolutely right on! You are a caring, forgiving, considerate, and loyal person. These traits are very admirable! Everyone wants someone who can be more like this, either as a friend or a partner. I think it really helped me see this when I started meeting new people that are friendly and positive, and have nice things to say about me. Other people's behavior is really always a reflection on THEM.
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
