but she will disagree with things after i put the proof in front of her so i have no chance when it comes to how i feel about anything
Is it always necessary for you to put proof in front of her? It sounds to me as though you both want to win the argument...and you'll provide the proof to do it. Decide what things you don't need to win an argument on. Decide when the issue isn't big enough for an argument. If she says, "Thomas Jefferson was the 6th President", if it'll just cause an argument, then it isn't even worth correcting, is it? It's not worth arguing (or agreeing) that the sky is not, in fact, yellow.
The sex issue is a different matter. For the moment, I would consider that your marriage isn't even in a place where you can expect much. With women, it may be that she needs to feel loved, and loving, before she'll initiate. Has it always been an issue? Or is it just since things have been going south? There could be other issue at work here; depression, exhaustion, kids, doesn't feel sexy, doesn't feel loved, don't feel in love. Try to improve things between you.
Since your the one posting, how about listing a few things you'd like to see improve in your marriage, what YOU intend to do about it (your goals...don't list things your wife needs to fulfill, like "my wife will kiss me in the morning", etc), and how you'll recognize when things have taken a babystep in the right direction. How about for the next week you make an effort to hear her out completely on her gripes and validate her feelings about it. See if things change any.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
