Thanks Puppy and WP, that's some good advice from both of you, as always. I'm not going to tell anyone about what I find except for my W.
My W actually changed the online account password for her phone (she had access to it), but my name is still on the account so I was able to request paper copies of bills even though I can't log in online anymore (the only way to reset the password is to have a temp one sent to the phone, which she of course has). When she asked me to put the account in her name she said "You have to call and make the change. The only way I could do it myself is if I had someone pretend to be you and I didn't want to do that."
OK now, why would you even THINK about getting someone to pretend they were me (which I'm pretty sure is illegal) just to change the name on the account? Does she not realize how transparent she's being? It's obvious she tried to think of ways to change it without me knowing. No one would go through that thought process unless they were hiding something.
Because the thing is, I've had her email password for months and never saw anything suspicious. Now it's starting to make sense why. She knew I had that password so she only used her phone, IM, and I'm sure texting, to contact the OM.
Well, people tend to get tripped up in their web of lies sooner or later. There's always that one little thing they forget to cover up, and for my W it sounds like it was her phone.
Me: 33 WAW/MLC: 33 M: 4+, T: 10+ Separated: Nov 08 A#1: Oct 08 - Jan 09 (exposed and ended) A#2: Feb 09 - ? 1: http://tinyurl.com/mrmistakes 2: http://tinyurl.com/ckch9t 3: http://tinyurl.com/stillwaters3