Climbing out of the swamp

[sandycay]

Then she said that she was so glad to be here because she really missed being with the girls, and that she feel like they really need her in their day to day life. I told her that I appreciate that she's here and all the things she is doing.

I had to think about this statement. When she told me this I cringed inside because I was thinking that I wasn't 'good enough' to take care of the girls. I failed and now she is bringing all the 'good parenting' into the house.
Frank you misunderstood and are making assumptions about your wife here. She said she missed them..Period She said she felt like needed her...period Those are all truths, nothing more.... she's missing her kids and her kids need her..... be happy she's awake enough to see that, that's what moms feel!
My first inclination in the past would be to say "Yeah I guess I sucked at taking care of them". But I didn't. Good job on keeping that thought to yourself.. now what is Frank going to do about that negative thinking? I thought it but didn't say it. She didn't say that all.... you did.... now stop beating yourself up about this and move forward... we all screw up as parents ... get over it... although I like you.... your not perfect ya know

I know I didn't do the greatest job but I was here, I worked to keep us here, and I love them. I did the best I could at the time. Again whose the perfect parent on here, no one.. we all have regrets... hey our kids aren't perfect either and we still love them it's a two way street

I need to remember that and give myself Kudos for at least doing that much.