Met W for lunch to discuss the D. I remained very calm, listened and stayed on subject. We talked about mediation and the need for a L to review. She has to talk to a L to see if he can review for us or whether I will need representation. Have to admit ignorance in this area, but will read up tonight as I am traveling on business.
Talked vaguely about dividing assets, support income and kids arrangement. She brought up how she felt horrible throughout this process and how everyone is going to look at her when she walks away. I told her that she was just doing what is right for her and most of our siblings are on second marriages anyway.
She repeated what she had said before about really wanting to try all along in this process, but the feelings aren't there. She said she had read books and researched for a solution (unbeknownst by me), but all her efforts did not result in the return of her feelings. She said that even with the thought of being alone so scary, and the toll on the kids, she just couldn't get the feelings back.
It ended on a loving note. Her telling me that she hopes we can remain great friends and me telling her that I was grateful for her coming into my life, sharing our marriage together and creating three beautiful children.
I have to process this discussion more in my mind.
