I've been following your sit and it sounds so much like my own. I do believe that your W is involved in an EA (maybe even a PA, considering the comment about his appearance???). My wife tried to say the same thing about the man she spent endless hours talking to (by the way, get, review, and KEEP the cell phone records, and then cancel her account like Puppy said). My W took her cell off of our account months before she dropped the bomb. I saw it as a huge warning sign at the time but I didn't do anything about it b/c I was afraid that she would see anything I did as controlling, etc. I would not expose her EA/PA to anyone who does not need to know!!! I made that mistake. Family won't change her mind anyhow. It will only complicate things and likely push her into the arms of the OM, just like Sandi said. Think of this way, if you do the exposing she no longer has to hide. You will be horrible in her eyes for humiliating her and she will have every excuse in the world to move forward with the OM. Believe me, I made this mistake and REALLY regret it. Keep your list of confidants very, very short (like maybe just one very trust worthy person who is not connected to your w).
