I'm not looking for applause, I'm looking for guidance, I'm looking for a way to improve my family life and hopefully my marriage. I take my vows very seriously, that is what has kept me holding on so long. I admit, I'm at my witts end, I don't know what to do. When I posted here, I was hoping I would find someone who has gone through what I'm dealing with and came out the other end smiling and happy. I'm sorry if I gave a different impression, truely I appreciate all of your advise, and the advise of others. My biggest fear is that my children one day are going to look back on their childhood in a not so fond way due to all this crap. Family as we know it, is put on hold until she finishes being a teenager again. It's frustrating.