agreeded...posting in front of her might not be a good idea..joined the site to see if we could work together to fig. out whats going on. i am all for the idea that i could be doing something wrong.. in fact being as how i cant figure it out on my own im sure of it...i just dontknow what it is... i really try not to bash her on any level on any subject.. but she will disagree with things after i put the proof in front of her so i have no chance when it comes to how i feel about anything... some of the problems might be self centered---like..i dont think i should be the only one to say,do or try anything with sex.. but others like stoping the kids from rough houseing in public,,,where i think there being brats and she thinks there just being kids and im to stricked. and once agian thank you all and i am paying atten.