Cinco dear, I'm so stoked about your bday fantasy day!
May I make just one suggestion though...
I like that you are trying to make the day about her a lot, you seem to be doing this to sort of "make up" for a few things you feel you have let her down on.
But don't forget the POINT of NOT being a Nice Guy....and truly ask for something you REALLY want....believe it or not, asserting yourself this way may actually turn her on, even if she intially resists!
So here's my suggestion....
You love shoes, high heels, right?
Does she still own any?
If she does, then part of your fantasy day is to ask her to wear them just for you. Whether that means just strutting around in them with a skirt alone together in the bedroom, or wearing them out in public with you to dinner or whatever....but MAKE THIS be known to her and make it seem like a requirement, not a request!
She will resist and maybe argue but she WILL feel sexy wearing them for you!
If she does not own any good heels anymore, then part of your fantasy day should be to TAKE HER to a sexy shoe store, even a porn/stripper store if you like, and find a pair that YOU like on her and buy them for YOU!! That should be your bday gift from her, is hot sexy shoes for her to wear for you on your day.
The rest of the day can be all about her if you want! But make sure you assert your TRUE desire this way to her and require it from her!
