Makes total sense. You working on yourself is going to force the relationship to change. If he is unwilling to bend with that change, it ends
Bingo~
I am so glad you get it/ I say many words and I could put it in one sentence.
Yep DQ~ will set you straight!~! No worries Lucky.
You will also learn about yourself by posting to others,,, you will post your POV and see that maybe it needs to be changed some.
I see what you meant.
You will have to see this in yourself or your hubby in the future. You can only be the best *YOU*. The minute I stopped trying to fix him and I LOOKED ONLY AT ME FOR CHANGE? Things started to change, then I would get scared and go back in my cave.
I am going to keep moving now, I must or I will lose him.
It is very simliair to Cinco, he had given every last ounce of love and patience he feels /felt he had nothing left to give. And she stayd the same?
I to ohave done this with Hubby. My H isnt as "nice" about it as Cinco is.. but he is dying for just some attention , love and sex .. For me to "show "him I love him.
Cinco has tuaght me so much about the inner working of my H. And a lot of other Male posters in the past. I dont have my Dad in my life never really did and I have no male friends. IRL.
I really never put myself in hubbys shoes.
And you all have the new version of me. I am Latina... so I have grown up a lot in these 3 years and also before I got here. I used to throw shoes and scream and yell and have my tantrums. Accuse him of always cheating. To wrongs don't make a right. I also used to be severely depressed. Tell him he didnt love me.....
This was all before the bomb...
Ugh... I could go on but I wont. I bought PM , cause I wanted to change sexually just *WEEKS* before he told me he couldn't go on like this. He felt just like Cinco, he loved me but it hurt him too much to stay , when I was saying "I DONT LOVE YOU " by letting him starve sexually. I read it anyway and here I am today. I can't fix the past by not enjoying the present. YUck BTDT it does not work!!!!!
I love him , he loves me and I thank God for my H. I really do. You are one amazing Young Woman Lucky. I am glad to have you for a friend. I hope things keep improving for you and hubby. I am sure they will. Ali
