I disagree with the advice that you agree to everything she says. There is a difference between agreeing and validating.
It's not, "Shawn, you are a jerk" and you say, "yep, I am". That's agreement, and it may be totally incorrect.
She might say, "I'd like to sleep with some other guy, in our bed." I doubt you should say, "okay dear".
Validating is trying to see her point. You don't have to agree or disagree. There isn't any reason to, it's what she feels. She (and you) are entitled to your feelings, wrong or right...that doesn't mean you have to agree with them. It's more:
Amber: "Shawn, you are a jerk". Shawn: "Why do you feel that way?" Amber: "Because it seems you always belittle me. You look down at me. You are insensitive to my needs." Shawn: Listening, listening, listening. "I'm sorry you feel that way." If partly true, or unintentionally true, "I'm sorry you feel that way. I can see how you could feel that way."
Or Amber: "The sky is yellow". Shawn: "Hmmm" or "Interesting" or "That's interesting, why do you say that?"
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
