I am a lot more hurt by this than I thought. It didn't bother me as much when I was fighting to save our marriage. Now that I am back home it matters more.
Thew reason I ask about the technicality is because if I understand that she was (finished) it feels a little easier.
When I found out that she slept with someone. I went and did it too. But no one seems to understand that I did it so that she would not feel guilty about her affair. As it turns out, she had an ongoing affair.
I really do forgive but I am trying to put this behind us. Right now she is taking this very very very slow, which is fine.
The strange thing is I have always been very articulate in my ability to pinpoint and explain what I am feeling. I think this is the first time that I am totally lost.
