I agree with the shattered trust. Not only do I not trust him, I don't trust myself anymore. That's going to be a slow healing process for sure.
Details on me kicking xBF out are here. Basically I just realized nothing was changing and it was too much for me to handle. So I packed him a bag, took his house key, and after we had a long R talk, escorted him out the door. It was difficult but necessary for me. I feel much more at ease now and no contact has helped that along.
We still need to discuss financial settlements so there are several convos in our future. But for now I'm happy to be alone with my thoughts.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
