Decided to start a new thread since it seems the D proceedings are starting to move forward. Will continue to journal on my Just because I'm losing... thread. Just could use some advice here as it seems we're coming down to the final months.
We've been in limbo since the bomb last May and W's new job (SAHM for 9 years before) has made the D more feasible. W saw a L in January and this morning she told me on the phone that "we still need to talk." She called a mediator and now wants to talk about it. She said it's been hard to talk at home - with the kids around. I went to a private phone at work and gave her a call back. We talked for 15 minutes about what she learned from the mediator and then agreed to meet for lunch today.
I asked her is she was alright and she said she was just sad. I agreed. She said she is just angry that nothing is changing. I asked what she meant. She said she's just tired of being in limbo. I asked her is she was angry at me, she said no, angry at herself. She said she feels like she is holding me back and keeping the kids in limbo. I asked her if she wanted to talk to a IC, she said not at this time.
I plan to go into this process with no resistance, whatsoever, and show her empathy where I can. No agenda, but to keep the kids first in mind, and be fair about a settlement. Any advice would be appreciated.
