sorry u misunderstood agian...i do have a life.i do do things on my own and have my own hobbies....what i ment was im not one to leave her with kids for hrs all the time while i go have a good time. as for the screenname, im not the only one here. this is for both of us..she just thinks its not going to do any good. quote "what the @#$! do they know"