Hi MWG, I think your H could keep this up for quite along time-sorry and maybe by helping him out at Christmas you were in fact not helping his bottoming out as you call it, but I understand why you did it. It is a shame tho that the people who gave gifts to you, to help you, actually ending up helping your h stay in limbo land. Sink or swim he has to do this alone. You have to help you and your family keep afloat. This relationship is all giving and at the end you are no nearer to him being your husband. So for now do what you have to do for you. You have to do this. Don't give him any inkling of how well your on line is doing he will only take it from you. Maybe this is tough love but it is your only option if you are ever going to live a peaceful and happy life.
