S, Some leave for one person, others are putting their feet in a lot of different ponds. They are acting out like teenagers. Yes, they all say pretty much the same thing that your h has said. It's the mlc lingo. I would listen and then let it go in one ear and out the other.
If your h wants to do things for you, let him. Be sure to thank him for doing them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
