(((CL))) Your wife will NEVER find someone who can meet her expectations I am sure! You have certainly bent over backwards to make her happy and it appears she has not done one thing to help your marriage improve. She has not even tried to help the intimacy issues....blaming you for everything!
As you said "it's not over until it's over", but if you do get a divorce I believe you will find your life more peaceful. I'm glad you have an appt on 2/13! Keep us posted.
Meanwhile, get prepared! You might want to start interviewing lawyers. You can have a free hour for consultation. Find someone who you are at ease with.
