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[AliSuddenly]

Yeah, I agree with Jeff T. My Mum said to me a few days ago (and she hasnt read Passionate Marriage).. just be yourself, do whats in your heart... I had drafted a funny, chatty email, but it sounded pretty detached.. it sounded like something you would send to an old mate that you had no attachment to (if you see what I mean) and she said.. sure, send it, if thats what you feel like doing, at this stage just be you...

I think my wise old Mum's advice is sort of in line with Jeffs.. if you wanted to ask a good freind this career advice.. would you NOT, just becuase you are afraid of what they might think of you? Like their opinion of you overrides your ability to connect with them, but keep yourself you? I've only read part of the book, so I am probs making no sense.

I thikn you need to let go of the importance attached to every/any communication with him. Its great he included you in the mass mail out, shows you he cares and he is ok with you being in his life.. whether that will translate to a ressurection of romantic feelings is as yet unknown. And keep your eyes peeled for someone new, if only for fun! I flirted with a hot guy at Tang Soo Do and it did wonders for my self confidence !...

Al xxx