Snodderly, mostly what I have read on here, spouses are leaving their families for someone else. My xh didnt leave me for any one in particular. He was talking to one girl, then fell for another (he says this was the first person he kissed after leaving me). Do they usually fall for the first person they have sex with after leaving? We talked today about the heat in my house and ended up staying on the phone for 30 or 40 minutes. He said he didnt regret being married to me and we had a pretty good marriage, BUT he wanted to try new things. (not necessarily sexual). I know they say not to believe what they say, but I believe him when he said this to me. At the same time, he told me he would NEVER be married to me or anyone else. He said he didnt want to be tied down again. I wanted to tell him he would wake up someday, but its useless he has his mind made up. Do they all say they will never be back or never be married again? Is it that he is enjoying his new life so much he doesnt ever want a family again? Also, it confuses me when he wants to do things for me. He said even if our son was living with him, he would have fixed the heat in my home. He says he will always help me if he can. I have told him several times, I will take care of things myself, but he insists on doing them and paying for them. So I let him or force my hand in saying NO!
