You met Lola?? Wow. That's like meeting a legend! Good for you. You have incredible strength!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
((((((bug))))) Yep, I met Lola the Legend! She is really doing great. She is a success, no matter what the future holds.
(((((Michelle))))) It's been a good trip!
(((((Corey))))) I think you may be right. It took me a long time to see it. you guys helped a lot!
I've been having a good time, helping a bit, watching cable shows that I don't see at home (mostly HGTV stuff, it amuses me!), and just lazing. I did cook dinner last night (if making rueben sandwiches is cooking) which was a huge success.
My mom have been a bit more "mothering" than I'd like, but I can understand it. It just drives me a little bit crazy at time. She crowds me a bit, always wanting to do things for me. She has a martyr complex I think! I haven't said anything to anyone here about the sitch. There will be a time for it, but this isn't it.
I still haven't decided how long to stay. Lots of "stuff" involved in that decision, so I have been avoiding it!
Wow, I've missed a lot! Sorry I haven't been around - with H back home now, I don't get much computer time to myself anymore.
I'm sorry it came to this, but I think you felt it was going to go this way for some time now. Well, all I've got to say is HER LOSS. If she only knew....
Better things are coming your way, my friend. I am sure of it.
(((((((Jeff)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I haven't posted to you in awhile as it seemed everything was same. I am saddened to read your wife's reaction but I totally think you deserve to adored and loved by someone.
I wish I could say something to help with the sadness but there's no way around it and it's a step in the healing process.
I like your GAL.... look at where you were last year. Your were a pop-a-holic (bad boy) and stagnate. Now you get out and do things for yourself and with your kids. Honestly, you sound happier recently than you did when I first came here.
You probably view your mother mothering you to death because your not used to that kind of attention. Enjoy it, it makes mommie happy!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
The situation is sad, but on the whole, I'm not. I think I had already done sad. And probably angry. I am pretty darned close to acceptance, at this point. I guess that is one advantage of this taking so long. I am almost excited, as odd as that may sound. I'm doing a pretty good life living for me know, and I actually think that it would be exciting to share. I know, I shouldn't rush, but...... Four years is a long time!
Hey my friend, I think the fact that it has been so long has taken the sting out of it for you.
You will still be sad at times, and thats ok. And you know in your heart you did everything you could and that should make it a little easier.
You deserve a life filled with love and hugs and genuine caring and whatever else floats your boat, ya know?
I am glad for you that you are almost out of limboland. I am sorry that your wife is willing to throw all your years together away. It really is her loss.
