Karen: Her email makes me want to gag. It sounds good, but if you look at her actions has she really tried to do any of this? Does she think the D is going to make other people happy? I personally think being a full-time mom is the best way for your life to count for something!!! I just think she's feeling a little guilty and is hoping you'll make her feel better. I don't think you should say anything to her that would make her feel better!
Puppy: Gag me. If it were me, knowing what little effort she has put into this, I would respond "Maturity isn't about doing what makes you 'happy.' It's about 'doing the RIGHT THING.' I'm sorry, but I'm just not seeing where you even tried." But that's just me. I'm sorry, but she just pizzes me off. She did NOTHING but run away from a damned good husband AND HER OWN CHILDREN.
Thank you for your comments, I still have anger issues, but I'm also sad and sorry for her. She is sick and I want to lead by example, I want to take the high road, I've put up with a lot of her crap and I gone through a lot in my life. Whenever I had to face hardships or pain in my life, I've taken it without complaint, without it breaking me, finding out about OM knocked me to my knees, I'm getting up slowly from this, it was the worse thing I've ever had to deal with. Don't get me wrong, I still carry the anger and I get depressed sometimes, but life moves on. What defines us is how we handle the hard times, its easy when things are all going your way, its the hardships in life and how you handle them that truly define you as a person.
I haven't responded to her e-mail yet, keep posting your thoughts. Its 11:35pm, Laundry is done, kids had a bath and were put to bed hours ago, bills are paid, having a beer, trying to relax a little before bed, tomorrows another day.
Thank you for checking in on me.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
