Ral, You are early on in this adventure. Don't count the days, live the days.I am only days away from final divorce just signed off on the last set of papers. I pray your outcome will be different, but you must prepare yourself , because there are no guarantees.It takes prayer and strength and patience.Don't give up. Your marriage is worth the trial you are going through.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
BAD NEWS.... Wife saw me reading a book I had purchased. The Walk Away Spouse. States she has no intent of reconciling. She wants a divorce period. She won't even consider working on it. It's over for her. So, It looks bleak and there is no hope for us. I need some time to think...
Take some time to think. Don't say or do anything yet. Please try to avoid this conversation with her right now. Remember they will say all sorts of crazy things. She is running off emotions right now. My three favorite words in the mlc world are BLAH BLAH BLAH.
I know this has you rattled. Remember she is not herself. Show her your a stronger person right now.Keep your cool.
Has she put any action behind this blah blah blah yet.
She won't even consider working on it. It's over for her. So, It looks bleak and there is no hope for us.
Don't ask her to work on anything right now.
There is ALWAYS hope.
She saw the book and probably felt extreme pressure. She is emotional right now.
Give her plenty of space and do not ask what her plans are. Just lay a bit low for a couple of days. You have plenty of time. Time is your friend right now.
I'm sorry your hearing this. Just try to relax and keep things in perspective.
Give her much time and she will change her tune. Right now it seems that aliens have abducted her and stuck a probe way up her rear so it engages with her brain. It is up there real good and is going to take a while to work its way back out.
Mine said all the same stuff. She may threaten divorce, but in a lot of situations, they cant pull the trigger and do it. Even after the divorce (I filed) taking a year, she came to her senses and wanted a second chance. It was too late for me though as she had done way too much damage.
Trapt is right - just lay low and dont push her into the arms of another man now.
I told her, If you want to D, YOU need to file for it. Secondly, there better be no one else before the ink dries... She talked about how she hasn't had time to think about this as she works all day and then has to come home to be a mom (s-11)... Her feelings are the same, she doesn't want to go over them again. She doesn't want to work on the R. There is no one else and she isn't interested in some one else... I asked about separating for a time, she didn't know if it would help, she'd thought about it.
I'll let it blow over for a few days. She knows we're house poor right now and separation would make it even tighter... Do you know how tough it is to have to sleep next to her. I haven't slept all night since ???
She also complained some of my reading Divorce Remedy and highlighting parts of it citing, could this be MLC, she didn't know, I guess it could be some... I had left the book in my chair, which has a storage compartment in the arm...
She doesn't want to hear or see you trying to fix or work on your relationship. PRESSURE. I hate to tell you this but you are the last person she is going to listen to right now.
Give her plenty of space and take it one day at a time, an hour at a time if you have to. Many of them say this and do not act. Keep your cool, and find a better hiding place.
