Hi Amazing LWB, It sounds like you have life under control as usual. You have got to be one of the most "half full glass" people I know. I love your outlook on life. We all can learn from you and I believe many of us do.
I've said it before to you and I'll say it again, your H sees what an amazing person he gave up. It's just not over... I still think he is inching slowly out of his fog, maybe a little slowly, but none the less he is emerging. Who knows if it will be too late or not...
Hugs to you and those sweet girls, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hey Beautiful Lady.....I have to agree with Yoyo on this one. I think he is slowly defogging and testing the waters a bit. It doesnt matter at this moment though, you still need to continue to focus on you and your wonderful girls. If he ever decides to make the move back to you, you will know it. I love how positive you have remained through this entire thing. You inspire me. I, on the other hand, became consumed with anger there for awhile. It is slowly fading and things STBXH does now no longer affect me. That is the beauty of detachment....and you are a pro!
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
It doesnt matter at this moment though, you still need to continue to focus on you and your wonderful girls.
That's my plan!
xH isn't slowly defogging. In fact, every day I see him taking steps further away from me. He might have some regrets down the road, but he won't turn around.
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I, on the other hand, became consumed with anger there for awhile. It is slowly fading and things STBXH does now no longer affect me. That is the beauty of detachment....and you are a pro!
I still have tons of anger, it comes and goes quicker these days. Much less, but its still there, don't you worry!
I do feel detached. The things I learn about xH these days (whatever it may be, him house hunting, him buying things without me, etc) used to crush me. Now, they barely phase me.
Him being with other women? Still hard, but it is what it is, right?
xH isn't slowly defogging. In fact, every day I see him taking steps further away from me. He might have some regrets down the road, but he won't turn around.
Your friends here have good intentions - we all know that. However, you are wise to remain cautious. You know him better than anybody.
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It doesnt matter at this moment though, you still need to continue to focus on you and your wonderful girls.
Good advice here. Keep your guard up, and focus on yourself and the girls. In that order. You cannot be a good mommy unless you are a postive role model for them.
To quote Stother Martin in "Cool Hand Luke:" "What we've got here is... failure to commun'cate. Some...men you just can't reach. So you get what we had here last week, which is the way he wants it... well, he... he gets it.
You made me feel so much better knowing that a soul as beautiful as your still has anger. It makes me not feel so bad for the feelings that I have. In my heart I know it is part of the process, part of the journey. I am just not used to having such negative feelings so it is hard to compute how to handle such emotions. I am just trying to use the anger as fuel to get thorugh the divorce. Hopefully it will finaly burn out after the D is over. Thansk for being so open!
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
That was so nice lodo!! Thank you to everyone that keeps up with me.
We have been fine, just fine. I usually don't get online at home, I either want to do other things or the girls are on their websites.
I am getting ready to (sigh) leave them on 2/20 and head to Florida with my friends, adults only trip. I am nervous, but know I need to go and enjoy myself. xH is fine with having the girls, says to 'go, have fun, you deserve it, the girls will be fine'.
xH closed on his first property (he is going to be buying/rehabbing rentals) last week. He shared pictures with me of the first place today. You can see the light in his eyes, the excitement. This is something he has always wanted to do.
Registered my 'newborn' for Kindergarten next year. How is this possible????
Ooooo, fun in the sun. Great time of year to thumb your nose at Ole' Man Winter.
Kindergarten... Unlike you, I can't wait for S4 to be ready for K, but his birthday is too late in the year for him to start this Fall -- darn it! Don't get me wrong -- I hate for them to grow up too fast, but in my case the sooner S4 is in K the sooner he'll have less to do with the evil MIL.
How exciting! Will you be able to go with her and occasionally help out?