Quick update I had sent H a text suggesting retro in lieu of the more expensive Gottman program; also sent him a link in his email. Never heard a peep from him one way or the other.
Sunday we got together to watch the Superbowl and I asked what was up re not responding about retro and he said that he thought we would do counseling for now, and then go in April if it seemed like we should. I said I figured as much, but why didn't he send me a text to say that and he said "because you didn't ask me what I thought." LOL talk about passive/aggressive. I said "that's so ironic because it's weekend about communication and here we obviously just had a problem communicating." Then he said he was worried that it was "religious". I assured him it was not and dropped it.
I saw that list he wrote and one of the top 5 words was "hurt". I asked him to elaborate and he started out saying "Well, I'm sure we hurt each other" and "I sometimes hurt you" to which I agreed, of course. Finally he said that sometimes when he looks at pictures of me or us, he feels hurt because we could have been so much more and we shouldn't be where we are now. So frustrating and sad for me to hear that. I think that the counselor should see the list- it might give her a direction to head.
Nurse called today to say my thyroid was a bit high; glad to know there is a hormonal reason for some of my problems and so they told me to up my synthroid dose. easy peasy.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
