Enjoying the "single" W-A-L-K (Faith 54)

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Taking a break from homework for a few....I was checking out my facebook page, and I saw something interesting.

I mentioned how ex-s W (OW) was having one of her bipolar weekends. Well, according to S14, the mood continued last Wednesday when he went to ex's house. S14 told me that he hopes they go to SIL's this weekend, so he can stay away from OW.

I also mentioned how I added SIL, niece, and nephew to my facebook friends. So we've had a couple brief message exchanges, not much. Baby steps. S14 is asking me to add ex's dad and brother too. I told him that I need time to get used to the others first. I mean I see pictures of everything going on in the family, including ex and OW. I am a strong woman, but I'm not completely nuts (not yet anyway)!

So anyway, on facebook last night, I noticed that ex-SIL updated her status to say "Giving advice to my brother." It made me wonder which brother. The other brother lives out-of-state, and is on-line often. So it could be either one.

Then today, out of the blue, I received a phone call at work. (Remember ex-H works at same company as me.) I didn't recognize the number at first (ex-H's cell number that I just received a few months ago). I answered in my usual professional manner, and he says "Hey!"

Not knowing who it was, but assuming I'd figure it out, I just replied, "Hey!"

Then he asked "How are you doing?" He was using one of those nice, I know you, old friend, almost flirty voice that guys use, you know what I mean?

I replied (still not knowing who it was), "I'm good, and you?" He replied "Good." So then I asked "Who is this?"

He laughed and said "It's *****." I laughed and said "Oh! I didn't recognize your voice." Then I covered it up by saying I was distracted because someone was just walking away from my desk when the phone rang. Which is sorta true, but not completely.

He needed some help with stopping his direct deposit. He wanted to know how soon it would become effective, so he could get a live check. He seemed to be concerned that he wanted it to stop ASAP, based on the way he asked it.

That is an easy question that he could have asked anyone on my staff. But that's what he does sometimes. Sometimes he will email or call. But not often.

The funny thing about today's conversation....If I didn't know any better, I'd say he was relaxed and actually enjoying talking to me.

Ummmmm.....okay. What gives?

I just returned the same friendly manner and helped him out. I told him to call me later this week if he wanted me to check on it for him.

I so much wanted to ask "Why are you stopping your direct deposit?" And I honestly feel like he was expecting me to ask. I didn't though, but the recent events with OW had crossed my mind.

For those who have been around....Do you remember way back when, before he married OW. Sometimes he would call me at work just to chat? The voice today...it was that voice.

Okay, that was so weird.

Maybe it's just another sign that he is more comfortable talking to me, and we don't have to be so on edge. I've really been making an effort to be friendly to him, and I can see our interactions have changed.

But today was definitely different.

Hmmmm......

Then tonight when I signed on facebook, the status update from x-SIL was "I am concerned!"

More hmmmm....
OW bipolar mood swing.
SIL offering advice to her brother.
Ex wants a live check and no direct deposit.
SIL is concerned?

Coincidence? Maybe......

It's hard not to want to read into that, I mean c'mon now! Don't we all want our ex's R's with the OW to fail eventually? Am I bad for saying that?

I don't want him to be unhappy, and I don't wish him ill, but sometimes I do think about it. (Smacking myself on hand now for being mean.)

See? I AM a cyber stalker! LOL. I didn't add them as friends to be a snoop. I just can't help but wonder though.

Okay, back to my homework.