I'm finally back and caught up w/you (as for my own thread, that will be a few more days still, I'm afraid).
Ok, what do I see? I see your IC as being excellent for you, even if it does mean, as you said "you'll end up pulling farther away from H." That is ok in the end b/c the point of your IC is for you. Now if H can get his own IC you may be on to something.
It is very sad that he doesn't get it, but as was mentioned before by Bill and Jeff, I think, he may not get it in time for you. You are so far ahead of him that you may grow tired of waiting. If so, that is ok. The key right now is for you to take care of YOU first, then the M. Everything will flow off of a healthy and happy Maria.
I'm pleased w/the suggestions from your C's on taking care of yourself, ending expectations, and stopping the negative. It is good you've been given a deadline as that has seemed to relax you very much. Remember what Bill said and don't finish the race before it is won, but continue to use us here to vent. So far, I'm impressed w/how you are doing.
I also like your IC's suggestion to stop judging yourself. This can only help you move forward and be happier, regardless of what H does or doesn't do.
My thoughts are w/you as always and I'll be trying my best to send good signals to H that he'll be able to comprehend. I'll try to dummy it down a bit or use pre-historic uttural grunts and basic gestures. Maybe he could figure those out.
You are doing well. Keep going along the course and doing the exercises. The proper outcome will be clear at the end of the 8-week road, my friend.
