One would wonder why or how it could happen after so much water has passed over the dam. But I would remind people of how this all started in the beginning by asking some questions.
Would it have been any less difficult to visualize our wives going down this path prior to the point where the wheels started flying off?
Is it really conceivable that a person can be one person for 20 or 30 years and then permanently become the opposite?
Is it conceivable that a person could actually "pretend" to be happy, loving and fulfilled for decades without collapsing much sooner from the exhaustion in keeping up such a tremendous act? Even the best professional actors can't maintain character for that long.
Is it really conceivable that we were so blind that we mistook the thousands of gestures, intimate moments, sharing moments, acts of love, conversations, gifts, expressions and all the rest for something other than a comitted love relationship that was organic and genuine?
If hormonal shifting is normal, if it has the ability to change women's personalities for a week a month, isn't it possible that a MAJOR, sustained hormonal shift might also change a woman's personality for a longer period of time?
If a woman's hormonal cycling begins and ends monthly, is it not more easily acceptable that a major hormonal cycle, such as is proven to exist at midlife, will also end?
Guys, I am all about hope and optimism. I have repeatedly stated for over three years that hope is all I have ever had to stand on...even now amid MY second chance.
BUT...I am not about false hope...false optimism. That is not what I am offering to you here either. However, my hope is based on facts and reason and it had NEVER been reasonable to me that my W would change as dramatically as she did, forever.
I could not put a year or two of "craziness" on a scale and have it somehow outweigh 16 years of what I knew to be true of her. There is no way. We are not living in a Walt Disney world here...this is real life where the fantastic rarely is. .....
