When you said concentrate on the things that make her not want to stay - is this part of the 180?
Not neccessarily, it's more to identify your contribution to the problem(s), like it or not, we all have a hand in why our marriage isn't working.
So it sounds as if you already got your answer from her, you're not listening (being attentive) to her needs, whatever that may be, maybe it's not listening to her 'small talk', you know, talk of her wrok day or interaction with a friend or something? I know I was guilty of that and over time can become a huge issue for some.
Really can't help you out with the counseling thing, never got there, wish I had, I'm certain thing could have worked if we did.
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Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
