kat.. I know that I can file without her; I was doing it jointly so that neither one of us would have any non-dischargeable debt after the D. Now she's talking about hiding money so that she doesn't lose it in BK. If the court were to find out that she's lying about money; we would get our petition dismissed and be prohibited from filing again. I don't think I can trust her on anything. So maybe D'ing first is the best option. Take my chances on the dischargeable debt. My BK L says to D first anyway. So we'll see. Gonna talk to him tomorrow if I can.
WDID..thanks for the empathy..
Tawnya..I always love the kind words. They keep me grounded.
Mish...I hear what you're saying on asking them how they feel. Normally, I don't bring it up. But my S brought it up and here is what he said, "I bet you're wondering where I got that new X-wing fighter, aren't you?"
So the convo went from there. He seemed like he was wanting to tell me something; so I tried to give him an opportunity. However, when he let up and went silent; I dropped it.
He really wasn't that excited..it was more matter of fact. That's why I was wondering if he was wanting to talk. Maybe he was just wanting me to know that OM was over there.
hey tom. amazing you didnt go and kick butt. to me, in my history, thats how my oldest brought it up once, in a round about way to tell me what she wanted to tell me, in her own way. so that might be it. hang in there my friend.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I wonder if S wasn't sticking his toe in the water? How will dad react? Maybe a little guilt as well. My W had OM playing video games and talking sports with S as well as bringing our kids around his to further cement the bond. That is what they do to make it all OK I think. It isn't fair, it is seriously screwed up, but what isn't in their heads these days. I also wonder if she hasn't had OM around them before. Be ready for more anger and disappointment. Keep on the high road you've been travelling and like was suggested be the good man that you have been and that your kids need. I think my W does it for the drama or the reaction she gets out of me. Like Tawnya said about her H, you just sort of get a "what's the big deal" reaction out of them. File for D and then BK. If there is any joint debt you will take her down with you and if she is hiding money then she will end up screwing herself and not you. Like someone said on here. You are now in a fight. That is why it will say Married Crazy vs. Crazy on the divorce papers. You will be gald you did. She is not your friend anymore, she quit that with the first A. You are just a nice guy like me who is in it for the best for his kids. Approach the divorce with that mentality. As many people have told me, "you are the stable one, do everything you can to keep that stability in their lives." They deserve you and you deserve better than her.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
LOL LE you made me laugh with the divorce paper saying married crazy vs crazy..true..Tom is certainly so grounded and sane and nice that it is ridiculous (but in a good way)
By the way {{LE}} I totally agree that you are the same, grounded, sane, and super nice..just in case no one has told you today
I agree that probably that was son's way of telling you without telling you..they are smart that way aren't they?
You sound SO good thru all of this craziness, I sometimes sit and just think "how the HECK can we all just still be okay after all of this that sounds so CRAZY a way to live" Your strength and honor continues to shine thru
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
That's good.