I so understand your frustration. Seems sometimes our H are on board and then they are not. My H too says things that hold promise then.... nothing.....then a crumb....then nothing...rinse and repeat.
I posted about it on my thread in an email to my H over the weekend... your thoughts would be welcome, heck I am stuck and don't know what to do at this point.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too