And I agree with optomist that your H is suffering from depression. The only thing is that there is absolutely no point in trying to convince him otherwise if he has decided that he is not depressed. It just pushes them away. I tried it with The X and with X SSS GF. They have to figure it out for themselves.
Hang in there. At least your H is willing to talk about what is bothering him which shows that he is still connected to you.
Keep giving your H time and space. Keep listening and validating with doing the no pressure thing. WAS can't seem to handle any extra pressure when they are in alien mode.
And most importantly keep taking care of yourself. This whole DB thing is a test in endurance.
