We are going to Cedar's Sinai...so its in Beverly Hills. Where and what is Phillipe's? My kids are picky at best.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Philippe's is the birthplace of the French Dip Sandwich. It's right across the street from Union Station and next to the main entrance to Olvera Street. Just out of downtown. It's at Alameda and Ord Street. 100th anniversary this year I believe. Check it out. It's wonderful! Deli style, walk up, sawdust on the floor, picnic tables throughout the entire place. I always order mine 'double dipped'. They actually dunk the bread in the au jus instead of just serving it on the side. 'single dipped' is one half of the bread dunked. 'double dipped' is both halves dunked. FAB!!!!! Look it up. Really work the visit.
Yeah, why in the world would he ask you to go to a movie with him after all that happened? Is he wanting a friendship with you? How do you feel about that?
Hey there, Corey. Haven't posted to you in awhile, but I'm always reading along.
My guess is that going to a movie together is a way for him to be close and to connect with you. If your H is anything like mine, which I know you and I have said they are in some ways, I think he still loves you, regrets everything he's done to you and the kids, and is really afraid of you moving on. That's why, even after all that has happened, he is still wanting to spend time with you. But is the fact that he still loves you enough?
I ask that because I guess I thought it was enough for me, but it's really not. My H is back home, again, and he has not changed. In a small area, he has, but overall, he has not. Not nearly enough to show me that he TRULY cares about my feelings. The moment we disagree or I have a different opinion about something, he is still dismissing my POV as being "wrong" because it doesn't coincide with what HE thinks I should be thinking or feeling.
My point - Your H might be charming/understanding/compassionate and wanting to spend time with you today, but he will very likely turn back into a toad tomorrow, and that's especially true if he's not getting any help to improve himself. I think you mentioned before that he wasn't going to IC anymore?
Always hoping the best for you and your babies.
(((Corey)))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Why does H want you to go to a movie? And what would it make you feel to go?
Not really sure WHY he wants to go, maybe to spend some time together, who knows. It won't really make me FEEL anything. First it hasn't happened so I won't worry about it until it does and second, I have clearly stated my position and I am totally at peace with whatever happens. I'm not saying it won't hurt, but I'm good these days and just can't continue to worry about what each little call, comment or action means.
He is still going to IC, but with the holidays they have gone from every other week to more like every 3-4 weeks. The C doesn't seem to be able to fit anything more in, so I'm not sure what if any real good its doing, but that is for them to work out...not me. I fully realize that he is NOT going to make some miraculous change overnight, but God knows I prayed he would. LOL. I have seen some positive changes, nothing earth shattering, but some. Are they enough? Not today. The items that need to be addressed have not been, so the situation remains static. At this point I see it as going to a movie with a friend and I'll go regardless. I guess thats the difference.
Michelle, GF and WDID thanks for posting and asking the questions that I need to think about and have answered.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Just a question in return. WDID posted this question on H4H's thread and I'm going to ask it here.
If she wants to divorce you, why isn't she?
My question is this: Why does my H still stay in constant contact with me if all he wants is to be gone?
I asked my C a version of that same question: Why, if H doesn't want to hear the truth, does he continue to call me?
She said she wondered the same thing...
I read that question earlier this evening and it got me thinking. My feelings about my earlier post haven't changed, but this question just kept popping back up to me. So I'm asking you all for your insight.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
hey SIL just checking in with you. I have decided, our H's the brothers two, have just lost their minds, LOL! I am more worried about you than your H right now, and for what its worth, I am very proud of you.
as for your question, why my H leaves his stuff all in a tote box, and will leave mad, yet come back here and sneak into the yard to sleep......why would he do that, if he really wants to leave.............
see? they have lost it lol!
love you girlie!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Baby you don't need to worry about me, I'm pretty good these days. Baseball has started for the kids again, so I will be busy and busy is good. You know what they say about idle hands...
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
